My best friend is leaving ME.
YES,ME.
Because this is my blog, I can be selfish and bratinella for about 5 minutes.
I have only a handful of really good friends. My doctor says that’s because I’m relational, not social. Which is why “losing” a friend so dear to me can be so devastating.
Well, I’m not losing her literally. This one likes to leave a lot. And I mean A LOT. We’ve been best friends for almost 10 years now, (damn even I cant believe it’s been that long), and I’ve accepted the fact that she will never ever stay put. HAHA.
I think this is why we get along so much. We balance each other out. We’re complete opposites and yet exactly the same.
For starters, we share an ex boyfriend. (Don’t get your dirty dirty minds going. We had the same ex. They got together a year after we broke up. Ironically, that’s when we became the best of friends. It was awkward for him, mostly fun for us)
We would even fix our class schedules and choose electives we didn’t even need just so we could spend more time together.
She was there when I got my first tattoo. Literally held my hand.
When I had super long straight boring hair, she convinced me to chop it off (I looked like a dude for a year) but hey, I loved that haircut and probably wouldn’t have gone through with it if she didn’t tell me I would look great with pretty hoop earrings and a popped collar.
My entire family knows her. She’s spent Christmas eves with us, family birthdays (not even mine), my cousins look for her when she’s not at a family gathering.
Most of our memories are based on the boys we were dating at the time. We know every single one of them. And every single detail.
We’ve actually worked together. That was the most fun I’ve ever had hosting. Working with your best friend is fun at it’s awesomest.
We enjoy the same food. We love to eat. Chips and chocolates are our weakness.
We love coffee. And cake.
We know every single line in FRIENDS and would watch it over and over and over.
We’ve read the same books together. As in we bought the same trilogy and would read it together. And bitched about how bad the 3rd book was.
She’s a comforter hogger. And I would always wake up shaking on the edge of the bed. She’s a bed hogger too.
She’s cranky in the morning, So am I.
We both love the sun, sand and the sea.
We’re awesome drivers. (HAHAHA)
We could spend an entire month seeing each other every single day and never run out of things to talk about.
We can also spend an entire day together, doing separate things and still enjoy each other’s company.
We planned on mating our dogs. (But my dog is gay and her dog looks like scrat from ice age, so…)
Ugh. Okay enough, I’m not gonna cry. I’m not gonna cry.
It’s funny how she’s always the first person I would call in the middle of the night or super early in the morning to rant, cry or ask for advice- or when I just really need assurance, affirmation or a bitch slap and a little dose of reality.
And now it’s gonna be a lot harder to do because she’s gonna be miles away, and super busy with corporate life (which is the complete opposite of my life)
How are we gonna do random meet ups now at 2am and watch a movie on our laptops with Manong guard?
I hate her for always leaving me. I end up making bad decisions when she’s not here. Haha. I’ve been in denial for the past month and now that the day she leaves is nearing, I guess I have no other choice but to deal with it. It always sucks to be the one left behind,. They say “Friends are the family we choose for ourselves”. A good friendship is definitely something you should protect. So…
Okay.
Enough ranting.
Here’s how I’m gonna deal with this.
How to make long distance friendships work:
1.) Always keep in touch. (Viber, facebook, instagram, facetime, skype, whatsapp) You can never be too connected with your best friend
2.) Have Scheduled skype/ facetime calls (Jowa?? Our relationship is deeper than jowa levels, so YES. )
3.) Random visits – okay I gotta get rich for this. HK flights are not cheap. And HK shopping is definitely gonna rob me dry. So yes, my goal is to get rich in a couple of months so we can have random HK coffee dates
4.) Keep each other updated all the time- work, family, other friends, chismis, problems and achievements, (boys??)
5.) Keep in mind that absence makes the heart grow fonder. –She knows this oh too well. (haha)
So my best friend is leaving me.
But that should not and will not change anything. Our friendship will still be the same- of course adding a little bit more conscious effort to keep in touch and updated on each other’s lives.
(What with the help of social media and different chat apps available nowadays.)
I have only a handful of really good friends, and she is the best one I have.
I’m not really losing her, I guess. The distance is going to make our friendship dynamic a little bit more complicated, but stronger than ever for sure.
After this long bratinella rant, I want her to know…
That I’m extremely proud of her for taking this leap. I will always be here to support her, and I am really, truly happy for her.
So long and see you soon, my love!
YES,ME.
Because this is my blog, I can be selfish and bratinella for about 5 minutes.
I have only a handful of really good friends. My doctor says that’s because I’m relational, not social. Which is why “losing” a friend so dear to me can be so devastating.
Well, I’m not losing her literally. This one likes to leave a lot. And I mean A LOT. We’ve been best friends for almost 10 years now, (damn even I cant believe it’s been that long), and I’ve accepted the fact that she will never ever stay put. HAHA.
I think this is why we get along so much. We balance each other out. We’re complete opposites and yet exactly the same.
For starters, we share an ex boyfriend. (Don’t get your dirty dirty minds going. We had the same ex. They got together a year after we broke up. Ironically, that’s when we became the best of friends. It was awkward for him, mostly fun for us)
We would even fix our class schedules and choose electives we didn’t even need just so we could spend more time together.
She was there when I got my first tattoo. Literally held my hand.
When I had super long straight boring hair, she convinced me to chop it off (I looked like a dude for a year) but hey, I loved that haircut and probably wouldn’t have gone through with it if she didn’t tell me I would look great with pretty hoop earrings and a popped collar.
My entire family knows her. She’s spent Christmas eves with us, family birthdays (not even mine), my cousins look for her when she’s not at a family gathering.
Most of our memories are based on the boys we were dating at the time. We know every single one of them. And every single detail.
We’ve actually worked together. That was the most fun I’ve ever had hosting. Working with your best friend is fun at it’s awesomest.
We enjoy the same food. We love to eat. Chips and chocolates are our weakness.
We love coffee. And cake.
We know every single line in FRIENDS and would watch it over and over and over.
We’ve read the same books together. As in we bought the same trilogy and would read it together. And bitched about how bad the 3rd book was.
She’s a comforter hogger. And I would always wake up shaking on the edge of the bed. She’s a bed hogger too.
She’s cranky in the morning, So am I.
We both love the sun, sand and the sea.
We’re awesome drivers. (HAHAHA)
We could spend an entire month seeing each other every single day and never run out of things to talk about.
We can also spend an entire day together, doing separate things and still enjoy each other’s company.
We planned on mating our dogs. (But my dog is gay and her dog looks like scrat from ice age, so…)
Ugh. Okay enough, I’m not gonna cry. I’m not gonna cry.
It’s funny how she’s always the first person I would call in the middle of the night or super early in the morning to rant, cry or ask for advice- or when I just really need assurance, affirmation or a bitch slap and a little dose of reality.
And now it’s gonna be a lot harder to do because she’s gonna be miles away, and super busy with corporate life (which is the complete opposite of my life)
How are we gonna do random meet ups now at 2am and watch a movie on our laptops with Manong guard?
I hate her for always leaving me. I end up making bad decisions when she’s not here. Haha. I’ve been in denial for the past month and now that the day she leaves is nearing, I guess I have no other choice but to deal with it. It always sucks to be the one left behind,. They say “Friends are the family we choose for ourselves”. A good friendship is definitely something you should protect. So…
Okay.
Enough ranting.
Here’s how I’m gonna deal with this.
How to make long distance friendships work:
1.) Always keep in touch. (Viber, facebook, instagram, facetime, skype, whatsapp) You can never be too connected with your best friend
2.) Have Scheduled skype/ facetime calls (Jowa?? Our relationship is deeper than jowa levels, so YES. )
3.) Random visits – okay I gotta get rich for this. HK flights are not cheap. And HK shopping is definitely gonna rob me dry. So yes, my goal is to get rich in a couple of months so we can have random HK coffee dates
4.) Keep each other updated all the time- work, family, other friends, chismis, problems and achievements, (boys??)
5.) Keep in mind that absence makes the heart grow fonder. –She knows this oh too well. (haha)
So my best friend is leaving me.
But that should not and will not change anything. Our friendship will still be the same- of course adding a little bit more conscious effort to keep in touch and updated on each other’s lives.
(What with the help of social media and different chat apps available nowadays.)
I have only a handful of really good friends, and she is the best one I have.
I’m not really losing her, I guess. The distance is going to make our friendship dynamic a little bit more complicated, but stronger than ever for sure.
After this long bratinella rant, I want her to know…
That I’m extremely proud of her for taking this leap. I will always be here to support her, and I am really, truly happy for her.
So long and see you soon, my love!